Husband who bullies and is intimidating

First and foremost, recognize what is happening and remember that it is the bully who has the problem, not you.Unless they are physically threatening you, bullies are “paper tigers.” If you stand up to them calmly and confront their behavior rationally while asserting your rights, they will back down.It is characterized as behaving in a manner to gain power over another person. I would suggest that if you rephrase the descriptive action from “repeated aggressive behavior” to “taking frustrations out” on those who are weaker or different, bullying becomes a much more commonplace and identifiable act. There are different types of bullies and different environments in which they proliferate.

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If you call them out on their actions, they usually have no place to go–especially if others are witness to these actions.

You don’t have to attack a bully; you simply have to calmly and self-assuredly stand up for yourself.

Sometimes the bully appears to lack insight into their own behavior (unwitting bully), but more often the bully does know yet elects to ignore the moral and ethical considerations by which the majority of people are bound. Or they have projected so much self-hatred on the other that they truly believe that those they are bullying deserve exactly what they are getting. Parents and older siblings have been known to bully. But what about those who threaten, shame, or intimidate you into doing things you don’t really want to do?

One of the reasons bullying is so prevalent is because most bullies commit non-arrestable offenses. It’s an outlet–a way to express–frustration and/or rage. It happens to most of us, and when it does, we are being bullied.

And in fact, there have been many notable cases of teen bullying, on and off the Internet (i.e., cyber-taunting on Facebook) that come to mind when we think of bullies.

However, it isn’t just children and teenagers who bully.

Although it may not be as obvious, or as easily identifiable, adult bullying may be more widespread.

“Independent research suggests that bullying is happening to around 1 in 4 people” (from “Life After Adult Bullying”).

But regardless of how or why it is happening to you, it is not acceptable.

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