He got scared dating

" No divorced guy wants to be asked these questions. All he knows is, he just got divorced and can only handle the present for right now.

Chances are, when your guy was married, his wife wasn't very nice to him. Whatever the situation was, at the end of the marriage, she was most likely anything but sugary sweet.

She is also the author of the comedic novel, FREE GIFT WITH PURCHASE about life after divorce. Pilossoph is a weekly business features reporter for the Pioneer Press, with the monthly column, "Heart of the North Shore." She lives in Chicago with her two kids.

That doesn’t mean they aren’t scared as crap to be “on the market” again.

They are just as afraid of getting rejected, being hurt or possibly even not meeting another man to love.

Being a divorced person for six years, I think I can paint a pretty accurate picture of some of the typical traits I see in divorced men.

Of course, I realize every man is unique, but these are just some features that I notice a lot. And they don't want to feel obligated to do anything! They are bummed that, at this stage in their life, they are single and have to put themselves out there.They have already been through a terrible emotional ordeal. Like my client “Lori,” who was one of the very special women in my 6-month Love Program – a highly successful and personalized private and group coaching program (which I will be offering again in the next few months). No guy wants a girl who is constantly telling him what he can and can't do, badgering him about the things he does wrong and the bad habits he has. On the other hand, they don't want to be smothered. They've most likely had a lack of those things for awhile. Divorced guys don't get scared as much as they did before marriage. On the other hand, if you start calling him your soul mate, start texting him every five seconds, and talk about the details of your future wedding, he will run. With him, she felt safe, loved and adored every single day. She listened to me carefully about how to date like a grownup.

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